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11 hours!! Are you kidding me?!!?

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It is weird that we’re zooming through December and I haven’t got my tree up yet?  I look around my neighbour’s homes and I wonder how a plane hasn’t tried to land on them yet – I live near some very artistic characters.  There is a house further up the street that actually haven’t taken their decorations down from last year and I’ve just this second realised they haven’t been lighting them up this year yet – wonder if they are ok, if I knock at the door am I going to be greeted by the ghost of said neighbours?

So, it got me thinking about the book I’m reading at the moment, granted I’m only 2 chapters in, but oooo I tell ye it’s a goodun. Atomic Habits by James Clear challenges us to make small 1% habits each day for the better.  Make your bed when you get up – start your day off organised.  Leave

your phone downstairs when you go to bed, then it’s not the first and last thing you see at bed time (tricky one), make that to-do list for the next day before you go to bed, then you can hit the ground running with a predetermined plan of action.  After all a goal without a plan is just a dream! 

It’s not that I’m procrastinating about the tree honestly.  I’ve just had other priorities, mostly work related (that, and I hate cleaning dog pish off the tree and floor).  Skewed priorities get in the way of living. Yes, we all have to work, the bank manager dude keeps on insisting that I send her money every month for something called a ‘mortgage’ and there

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are electric bills, rates, gas, insurance, groceries – see when you have a mountain of a son to feed, the grocery bill is not a joke, it’s more than my mortgage!!!! 

Where is the down time?  Where is the me, friends, family, movie, takeaway and jammies time?   I was shocked at my screen report last week, I apparently averaged 11 hours of screen time PER DAY!  Actually, SHOCKED!!!  I thought back upon my week and tried to argue with what the figure in front of me was telling me.  But I did this, and I went there and… I couldn’t think of one thing that added value to ME, I’m not talking ££££ here, I’m talking me.  I couldn’t think of one thing that added value to my family.  Nothing.  That is incredibly sad.  We tell ourselves, and it’s true, that we work hard for our family, that we put the hours in so our loved ones can enjoy a certain quality of life.  But 11 hours of screen time per day.  I must have taken a toilet break or two in there somewhere, but I could find no ME value or family value at all anywhere in my life last week.  That actually rocked me!

There’s a ££££ value that we all NEED to achieve each month.  There’s a ££££ that we want to achieve each month.  For our financial needs and our financial wants we bust our asses.  At what cost?  Little to no added value to our life, little to no added value to our family and friend’s lives.  Our lives should add value, leave a lasting legacy of love and inspiration – I’ve never heard any speaker at a funeral say, I wish my dad could have made more money, or I wish my mum had spent more time making money than with me.  No, we all pray for more time WITH them.  We all have value to give our loved ones, our spouse, our children, our friends.

I put so much time and emphasis into asking people to claim back their work/life balance, to rest, to relax to just be and I’m over here like HEEYYYAAAAAAA!  Pot, kettle, black!!! 

I didn’t NEED to do a lot of the stuff I did last week; I chose to.  I chose my screen over myself, over my family and over my friends.    I am not rocking up double figures on the screen time ever again – I am making an atomic habit change.  I am speaking (not texting) to at least one friend every day and visiting in person at least one friend every week.  Oh, and I’m putting my tree up tomorrow!!!